Whether you’ve been single for a few years or you’re re-entering the dating scene after a break-up, dating over 50 can be tough. You look around, and it seems like everything has changed since you were in your 20s, which can be daunting.
While some aspects of dating have changed (dating apps and constant mobile communication for a start!), remember that you are still the same. You may be a little older and (hopefully!) wiser, and the qualities you look for in a partner may be different, but you are still the same person underneath.
To help you get back out there and meet the partner of your dreams, here are four top tips for dating over 50.
Set Dating Goals
Many singles over 50 are eager to find a partner quickly, so as not to waste any more time. It doesn’t always work out this way, however, and you don’t want to rush into a relationship until your 100 percent ready. It helps to be clear from the beginning about what you’re looking for, but don’t get hung up on meeting “the one” right away. Consider your short-term and long-term goals. For example, your short-term goal might be to make new friends and have fun, while your long-term goal could be to enter a committed relationship.
Get With the Times
Sun Life recently launched a campaign exploring how life has changed in the past 100 years. Part of this campaign was looking back at the dating scene the decades. What became clear is that that previous generations had less choice over who to date – you usually hooked up with someone in your neighbourhood, or else potential partners were suggested by family members. These days, with the help of online dating, you have an endless choice of suitors at your fingertips. Distance is not necessarily a deciding factor, either. Use this to your advantage by familiarising yourself with the latest technology, and don’t be afraid of dating apps: you’ll soon get the hang of them.
Trust Your Instincts
It’s important to trust your instincts when you meet someone new and listen to what your mind and body are telling you. Don’t try and “make the shoe fit” with someone who’s wrong for you just because you’re lonely. That’s what friends are for, and you can never have enough of those. Choosing a partner is one of the most important decisions you’ll make in this phase of your life, so don’t rush it.
Keep an Open Mind
Understand that while first impressions are important, they aren’t everything. You might click with someone right away but feel doubtful about seeing that person again. Perhaps they’re polite, or they make you laugh, but you don’t consider them “your type.” Try to let go of these expectations, and ask yourself how well your “type” has worked for you in the past. Of course, you don’t want to settle for someone you don’t have romantic feelings for, but it’s good to keep an open mind, especially when you’re testing the waters.